American writer Pamela Druckerman knows all the rules of infidelity. She spent three years studying adulterers, from Paris to Tokyo. She tells Polly Vernon why she thinks us Brits are getting it wrong.
The Observer, Sunday July 8, 2007
Pamela Druckerman doesn't look like the world's leading authority on infidelity. She looks like the primary- school teacher all the dads fancy; or one of those second-generation yummy mummies, the kind who sets up a stall in a farmers' market selling fashionable cupcakes. She sits in the window of a patisserie in North London; a super-pretty, soft, smiley blonde, with a latte and a laptop.
She's involuntarily fixating on passing Bugaboos. 'My husband said he might walk by with our daughter,' she says. She's American, and even though her husband is British, and they have spent the past four years living in Paris, her accent endures. 'I can't help checking out all the prams. It's a reflex.' She smiles.
I expected something a lot less wholesome from someone who's spent the past three years immersed in the world of international adultery. Pamela Druckerman has written the definitive guide on it. Lust In Translation: The Rules Of Infidelity from Tokyo to Tennessee is the result of a long study of the world's philanderers. Druckerman has crunched numbers, collated evidence, and acquainted herself with the lexicon of adultery in two dozen cities in 10 different countries across the world.
She has interviewed adulterers (one-off; serial; recovering; flagrant; and tortured) and cuckolds (or 'men who wear green hats' according to the Chinese) in Moscow, Kazakhstan, London, New York, Paris, Indonesia, South America and beyond... She discovered that the Japanese don't count it as infidelity if they've paid for it, and that the best thing that can happen to them in one of their famous sex clubs is 'oral sex without showering first'.
She discovered that 40 per cent of Russians surveyed think affairs are 'not at all wrong' or 'not always wrong', and that upper-class Muscovites think affairs conducted at beach clubs do not compromise wedding vows one iota.
She discovered that Indonesian women in extremely traditional Islamic marriages 'have affairs, and the reasons they give for them are exactly the same as the reasons my girlfriends in New York City gave: my husband doesn't listen to me, I need someone who'll make me feel smart and pretty again; my husband doesn't do that, but my boyfriend does ...' She discovered that on average the British cheat more than the Americans - and the French.
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| "Earth, the only planet with free choice in the Milky Way Galaxy" |
“.. A
billion years ago, they (Pleiadians)
went through a change and they went through a shift, and they had free choice.
Back then, they were the only planet that did in their time, and eventually
they went through a metamorphosis of consciousness. ”
“.. So
again, we tell you that the ones who came to help seed you approximately 100,000
to 200,000 Earth years ago were the Pleiadians who had gone into graduate
status and who had changed consciousness. They had become quantum with free
choice, and you have parts of their DNA within you. ..”
“..You're
surrounded by divine beings who keep you safe and will continue while this
planet of only free choice – the only one at the moment – makes its decision.
You're turning the corner of consciousness and they all know it, for they've
all been through it and they remember it. Oh dear ones, consciousness is
volatile! You've seen it change so slowly, but it's about to change faster.
It's not going to take generations and generations as in the past. Instead,
you're going to see real-time changes. Humans won't wait to have children for
them to grow up and have children. ..”
"The Quantum Factor" – Apr 10, 2011 (Kryon channeled by Lee Carroll) (Subjects:
Galaxies, Universe, Intelligent design, Benevolent design, Aliens, Nikola Tesla
(Quantum energy), Inter-Planetary Travel, DNA, Genes, Stem Cells, Cells,
Rejuvenation, Shift of Human Consciousness, Spontaneous Remission, Religion,
Dictators, Africa, China, Nuclear Power, Sustainable Development, Animals,
Global Unity.. etc.) - (Text Version)
“.. In
time, the quantum factor will be discovered on this planet. When it is, it will
be highly controversial, and it's going to fly in the face of logic and 3D and
the way things work via the scientific method. The ramp-up to all this is
difficult. The old souls in front of me have signed on to work this new energy
and they've waded through lifetimes, just waiting for this. What would you do
as a scientist if the experiments before you had "a mind of their
own"? What would you think if magnetics, gravity and light could only be
assembled in a certain way that created healing and never a destructive
alignment? All this is going to redefine some of the basic forces in the
Universe. Intelligent design is only the first, and even today many astronomers
and physicists still think it's an anomaly.
That will
be the next largest discovery on the planet. It's been held back from you
because it takes a higher vibrating consciousness to create and understand it.
When any planet discovers a quantum energy and is able to use it, you could go
to that planet and know that you will meet high-consciousness entities. This
has never been given to you before that, for within the quantum factor contains
the secret of interplanetary travel using large, entangled states. There are
ways of doing things you never thought could happen. You can throw away your
rocket ships. You're on the edge of that.
..”
“… And so,
dear Human Being, you have the ability to start to return to an energy that you
thought you'd lost, where Human beings are allowed to live longer and it
doesn't destroy the environment. They don't overcrowd themselves because they
can control it through their minds instead of laws... and through wisdom.
Some day you'll meet the star seeds, your Pleiadian sisters and brothers. They're even here now, since they are quantum. You've got Pleiadian ancestors who live a very, very long time in a graduate situation in a planet that went through the test just like yours. And it developed a quantum factor. They have benevolence and they have quantum energy. That's how they get here instantly and return, and they'll never interrupt your free choice. That's also why they don't land and say hello. Instead, they sit and cheer on the sidelines for what you've finally done. They are waiting with you to celebrate the December solstice of 2012... the half way point of the 36 year shift you are in. …”
Some day you'll meet the star seeds, your Pleiadian sisters and brothers. They're even here now, since they are quantum. You've got Pleiadian ancestors who live a very, very long time in a graduate situation in a planet that went through the test just like yours. And it developed a quantum factor. They have benevolence and they have quantum energy. That's how they get here instantly and return, and they'll never interrupt your free choice. That's also why they don't land and say hello. Instead, they sit and cheer on the sidelines for what you've finally done. They are waiting with you to celebrate the December solstice of 2012... the half way point of the 36 year shift you are in. …”
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Sunday, July 8, 2007
Is anyone faithful any more?
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